Are you ready for more Gems? I have plenty more to share! If you’re joining me for the first time, make sure you check out my previous post Confessions of Curly Girl Gems Part 1 so that you can get all of this goodness. Today I want to follow up with some additional things that I have learned and am still learning. Hopefully, these lessons will be as beneficial to you as they have been to me.
Shrinkage is real. Don’t let the afro fool ya!
My hair grows in fine tightly coiled strands and because it is not as dense as some of my curly counterparts it always appears to be a flourishing TWA. I’m sure some of my tightly coiled friends can attest that to this. Don’t get discouraged, your hair is actually growing. If you’re feeling that your hair is stagnant and never grows, just pull out a pic from a year ago and compare. I’ll guarantee you’ll be surprised.
My hair isn’t silky, and that’s ok.
Fine, course strands, that’s me. Effective advertising had me seeking products to create looks that my hair was never designed to produced. The “shiny/wet” look may not be a thing for me or you and at some point, we will have to come to terms with that. I know what my hair looks and feels like when it is healthy and properly cared for and moving forward this will always be my goal. I have learned that no amount of oil will give me a look that my hair’s characteristics just can’t support. So, I gave up the oil, garnered my expectations, became educated about my specific hair type and its needs, and strive to maintain a healthy head of hair. With a little education I have been able to realize how awesome my hair truly is. Though not silky my hair is healthy, strong, and beautiful and that is what’s most important.
Protective styles don’t always protect:
I had been a fan of the protective in my early transitioning stages. While I still appreciate the beauty and usefulness of these styles, it wasn’t unit I began really examining my hair that I realized the things I thought were protecting me we actually causing me harm. Braids, wigs and weaves may be your thing, but please be mindful that styles done too tightly or improperly can actually damage your hair. Traction alopecia is real and, in some cases, nearly impossible to recover from. Do your research, be mindful of how tight these styles are and how long you keep them in, and save them edges!
The best stimulator for hair growth is a healthy lifestyle and regular maintenance.
We all want our hair to be full and bountiful flowing down out backs. We will try almost anything to make this happen and, in most instances, not too much avail. This is because the primary factor in determining how thick and lush your hair will be is genetics. So, stop with the magic pills and hair potions and invest in a solid routine and an awesome stylist. Simple lifestyle modifications directed at making a healthier you will result in healthy and happy hair as well.
If you don’t love it, it won’t matter what anyone else thinks.
Learn to be happy with what you have and stop trying to compare yourself to others around you (I’m speaking about hair, but this can be applied to all facets of life). We can be our own worst critics, but we should refocus and become our biggest supporters. Beauty begins with self-love and is manifested through confidence. Love yourself and others will follow.
Your journey is your own, own it. There may be frustrations, but it is just hair. Don’t let it consume you, and don’t forget to smile through this process. Regular maintenance and a consistent routine are your hair’s best friend, and whatever you’re rocking be bold! Confidence is key!
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