Confessions of a Curly Girl : This Can be Easy(er)
A general misconception is that managing your natural hair has to be some daunting task that takes tons of effort and hours to master. While maintaining your natural curls does require some effort, it doesn’t have to be complicated, confusing, complex, or leave you wondering why you chose this path.
The opposite is true. Natural hair care can be easier
Whether you are new to this journey or have been rocking your natural hair since birth, your experience with natural hair care can change for the better. How? By identifying and eliminating your biggest enemy. Pessimism.
Firsthand experience has taught me that we are only as successful as we believe we will be. If you think natural hair care will be complicated, your curls will never be poppin’, and you should spend all your time on natural hair care; that will be your experience. Don’t believe me? Think about it. How many times have you predicted a negative outcome before you’ve even started a process? How much better would the result have been if you only approached it with a bit of optimism, planning, and preparation?
I’m not talking about being blissfully unaware or downright ignorant of the challenges that may occur. We are all too bright for that. Still, we have far better potential to succeed when we start with the proper set of beliefs.
Making it work for your curls
It all starts with the mind and getting to the route of pessimism. What thoughts, messages, and ideas do you accept about natural hair care and your natural journey? What stories are you telling yourself or lies are you believing? Are you preconditioning yourself for failure or success?
I don’t have to be a psychic to confirm that you’ve accepted the narrative of struggle. While you scream, you want easy. Your actions tell a completely different story. Resistant to facts, science, or anything that challenges the narrative of struggle. You continue in the cycle of complex natural hair care because everything you’ve absorbed conditioned you to believe that was normal.
The good news
You don’t have to accept that narrative. Your initial thoughts, misconceptions, and limiting beliefs can all be corrected. It is possible to change the trajectory of your natural experience. Listen, I’ve been where you are, had the same negative thoughts, and even contemplated returning to a relaxer. Then, I turned it all around.
Realizing that my current path was getting me nowhere, I focused on the biggest obstacle to my success, my way of thinking. Yes, there was work to be done. Still, I wouldn’t be receptive to a better way to care for my curls until I addressed my mindset.
Determined to improve my natural experience drastically, I began visualizing the positive possibilities that eventually became a reality. This shift happened because I changed my thought process.
Yes, it’s just that easy. I opened myself to the possibility of succeeding.
Going through this process helped me recognize the challenges that might occur and adequately plan and prepare for them. It also forced me to acknowledge the areas I lacked skill or knowledge in and then equip myself with the tools needed for success.
Getting started
Being honest about natural hair care and the beliefs you hold can be somewhat challenging. After all, you’ve been conditioned to think that most misconceptions were true. No worries, you’re in control, and I can help. You have ultimate power over your feelings and thoughts. You can use that power to orchestrate more favorable outcomes, or you can continue on your current path and be frustrated with marginal results.
When was the last you were intentional about creating positive thoughts around your natural hair experience? Let me help you get started!
Moving forward, consider the following:
Success is possible, and natural hair care can be easier.
Then actually apply it to your hair care journey.
Remember, change doesn’t come without challenge. This major shift comes with a great reward that impacts far more than your curls. Embrace it, commit to it, be consistent, and you will begin to reap the benefits of your positive thoughts.
When you succeed, I would love to hear about it. Shoot me an email or connect with me on Instagram.
Need a little more help navigating your natural hair journey? Visit Bold Kulture Beauty and schedule a discovery call to learn how I can help you confidently and comfortably make natural hair care easier!
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